Thanks everyone, I am feeling okay about it most of the time and I got excited last night doing some planning for the business. (Yes, using a slightly different basis smile )

Annette, I did do those things - I can really see in this case it wouldn't have made any difference, it wasn't anything to do with me. I think there are some people who, for reasons of their own, just have to be horrible to you. Whatever personal 'hot buttons' they have, they just lash out instead of dealing with it. The level of hatred she has had to maintain to do this for more than a year despite me not responding in anyway unless I have had to, is staggering to me.