I'm not even a little bit angry. I'm asking questions because it leads to interesting and useful discussion. Is there an overlap between the time it is meaningful to talk about going to college, and the time "College is not for everyone" becomes "College is not for Student X in particular"?

And is there an overlap or a mismatch between who makes that decision for an individual and who *should* make that decision? Is that decision made more often on the characteristics of the parents than the characteristics of the child?

And does a teacher's decision to not encourage her students, in general, to attend college have every bit as much impact as deciding to encourage all of them?