I haven't been in your position (yet), but thought you'd like to know that I have read that if you request an IEP for your child, the school has to do it. It's usually used for kids who are struggling to keep up with their grade level, but not only for that reason. It was mentioned that if you use the "magic" words, "My child's educational needs aren't being met." when you request the IEP, it tends to get their attention.