My apologies mumofthree! I should have remembered that from your other posts.
When I was at the hight of worrying about dd's lack of socialising I happened to read something in a book on gifted kids (which I have somewhere but must be tucked away in a box) which basically said that if they child is ok with it and they otherwise have good social skills, then it's not too much to worry about. It's ok and not uncommon for gifted kids to be happy with their own company. Is your daughter introverted? If so, she might be fine until she makes another connection she thinks is worth the effort. On the other hand the authors also said if the child is unhappy about it then it is worth looking for peers even if they were outside preschool/school (easier said than done I know). Also, I've read over and over again that preschool/early elementary school age is the hardest period socially for gifted kids because their opportunities for meeting other kids is so limited and and controlled and bigger kids don't take them seriously.
That it's ok to enjoy your own company really resonated for me - I am very introverted and could happily entertain myself pretty much endlessly given the chance. I have to force myself to connect face to face with others (which I am perfectly capable of doing and generally enjoy it once I do - I am just most comfortable in my own head). Lol - we've just had a 5 day long weekend here, which is the longest time dd, dh and I have been together at the same time for sometime. By the end of the weekend I was going to bed straight after dd, I was so tired from the constant interpersonal stimulation!
Knowing that it's ok not to want or need to be surrounded by others can be useful too I think if your are introverted (if indeed it is something your dd is ok about). But I think it can be hard to feel like it's ok - we all want our kids to feel likeable and I think we get such strong messages that the only way to feel liked and likeable is by having as many friends as possible, when really that feeling comes from within (which I think comes from feeling loved and accepted by those people who are important in our lives, though I think I may have made that point once or twice already!)
Anyway, I've gone off topic enough!
