That would be my dh. Unfortunately he is still convinced that he is soooo stupid. Last night was a disaster.
I've got to say that it sounds like your stress level is off the charts. I'm glad you get to vent, that's so important, but I just happened to be over here today:
http://www.adhdmarriage.com/forumand I'm wondering if the reason DH feels soooo stupid is his own early difficulties - perhaps ADD/ADHD,perhaps an LD, perhaps who knows what, and if the reason you are overfunctioning is because he in underfunctioning, and that the 'stupid feeling' is a symptom of the underlying problem, rather than the source of the problem.
Anyway - jump over there and read what other spouces of underfunctioners are doing and see if it rings any bells, ok?
Love and More Love,
Grinity