and I'm wondering if the reason DH feels soooo stupid is his own early difficulties - perhaps ADD/ADHD,perhaps an LD, perhaps who knows what, and if the reason you are overfunctioning is because he in underfunctioning, and that the 'stupid feeling' is a symptom of the underlying problem, rather than the source of the problem.
Thanks, Grinity. It was a bad day and I needed to vent. Dh does have ADD but is not treating it and won't do anything in the way of self-improvement. He's pretty much of the opinion that life sucks and then you die. You can lead a horse to water...
I'll check out that link to see if there's anything I can do on my side without any cooperation on his end, though. Mostly I've just taken to doing everything and trying to keep his blow-ups away from the kids by not asking anything of him that might make him blow up (which is pretty little), but I really do need assistance carrying the emotional challenges of raising the kids and the reality is that I'm not going to get it from him.
I'll try not to whine too much here, though! I'm a bit emotionally recharged to go again at the moment.
