I always worry that responding to those underhanded things makes me 'stoop to their level'...
Thanks GeoMamma - I wasn't sure if you needed 'afflict the comfortable or comfort the afflicted' just then.
I do think that it's always possible to respond to underhanded things in a 'higher road' sort of way. I love what Suzette Haden Elgin has to say about our choices in communication.
My point is that you always have multiple choices about how you communicate anything.
It's a tough bird that won't melt under: You know Jean, this project is very important to me, and I so value the contribution you make to it. Still I'm getting the feeling that I am making you uncomfortable in some way. Can you help me understand what is going on between us?
If you can muster that level of sincerity and love then anything can happen. Humor helps too.
Love and More Love,
Grinity
