It makes me so sad that the answer is to walk away. I wish there was another way. But you need to do what is better for you and your family.

Relatedly, I find that I am automatically changing the way I interact with DS friends parents. We are currently struggling with decisions about DS 4.5 future, considering moving to get him better access to gifted programs. I have a terrific friend who was a friend before I had DS and I needed to talk to her to get my head straight and she has been super supportive and not defensive or judgmental at all and she has a 5.5 year old but even with her I found myself eventually using euphemisms and unfinished sentences to avoid saying things like he's reading on the 6th grade level. I find myself
getting quieter and quieter with parents of age peers. Sigh

DeHe