dd9's WMI was average and I'm not sure that she would be memorizing. She tends to wander a bit mentally.
Re Taminy, yes unfortunately dd did witness some of the interactions btwn me and her 3rd grade teacher. I tried to avoid that, but the teacher did not.
The worst was at the start of the year when I expressed concerns about the erratic MAPS scores while dd was out on the playground. As dd came back, I meant to break off the conversation, but the teacher began yelling at me and then turned to dd and told her that I was causing her problems and asked dd to support her position -- that I was pushing her. Dd looked like a deer caught in headlights and I was blindsided myself. We left, went to the car, and dd burst into tears telling me that, "I don't want to be in Ms. ___'s class anymore. She was mean to you mommy!"
I was completely pissed, to put it lightly. The only reason that I didn't ream her to the principal was that I had some sympathy for a really tough emotional spot she was in (her only child had been killed in a car accident a year or so prior and she was clearly suffering).
