I'm sorry onthegomom, I just reread my last post and I didn't really answer your question did I?. Hmmmm a bit rambly and emotional I think!
How did we deal with it? Well apart from not making a big deal of DS's abilities and ensuring that DD received encouragement and praise for her achievements I think the most telling thing was DD's personality. She is extroverted, very social, life of the party type person. She has an ability to rise above adversity (I am so thankful she has this personality type in view of her medical issues) and I think it is this more than anything we actually did that helped her deal with it. Her philosophy is "well you just have to deal it and move on".
