She makes comments about not being as smart as her brother and I do think she feels like she is less capable. It makes me sad but it is hard - she is old enough to see the differences. I point out that she is really talented at many things also (she is an amazing artist) but she doesn't think she is good at anything.
My comment is moving away from the original question (can't really answer that one!) and is more related to siblings in general. Our situation is very similar to yours Breakaway4. My DC are also 18 months apart with my DD the oldest. She has never been tested because she didn't want to. I would probably place her at MG maybe HG. I know she doesn't think she is anywhere near as gifted as her brother regardless of what anyone says. It's like two ends of the spectrum, "he's really smart, therefore there is no way I would even come close". She always sells herself short. DD has just moved away to university, there were a number of reasons she didn't want to stay where we live - small rural town, too cold etc (these were her reasons) and valid ones for her. For me, I think one of the big advantages of her going to the city is not having that link to her brother, the opportunity to establish her own identity. Maybe her medical issues played a part in her decision as well, I don't know. We have never made an issue of his abilities and the school never made comparisons. DD always said she was "cool" with it but deep down I always felt that it made a difference.
