I can not discuss my joys and concerns honestly with anybody else so I need him to understand.
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How can I get him to take me seriously? He makes me doubt too.
I'm sure your DH has lots of good qualities, and it would be nice if he supported you in this particular way, but you do not actually
need him to understand. You have us. You might be able to find face to face people in your state gifted group. You might have to hire professionals. You might have to shake the family tree and your friendship network or religious group, but you will find someone to talk with honestly. His loss if he isn't ready to share this with you, but everyone gets there in their own time.
It is your internal doubts that are bothering you the most. Conquere them, and your DH will fall into line.
In the meantime, read 'losing our minds, gifted children left behind' and send DH on playdates with normally developing agemates. That may be easier said than done, as it's sometimes hard to find agemates your child will enjoy who aren't themselves gifted, but do it anyway. Send him to some 'mommy and me' type classes and let him see for himself. It will take as long as it needs to take. Sorry. and it isn't fair. But I am grateful that your child has at least one parent who 'gets it.'
Love and more love,
Grinity
