I don't really get why he isn't as wowed as me, in that holy cow amazement or simple appreciation of the unusual. I get that a lot, he doesn't. I'd love for him to say, "you'll never believe what DS did today".
Polly
Those moments will come, Polly, in part as DS gets more comfortable with himself and is willing to 'show' himself to DH. At least that's what happened in our house.
When DS was in 4th grade, he got really frustrated with the Math program (they spent 6 weeks on perimeter) and by that age, DS was already hiding much of the time, except with his safest person, who happened to be me. Did this put me in the position of everyone else thinking I was crazy? Sure did! But I started Afterschooling him, and got him started on Aleks.com, because I couldn't bear for my son to think that he hated math. The 'enforced underachievment' started to thaw a bit, and one evening I returned to DH and DS and they both had big satisfied smiles on their faces.
They had gotten into a conversation about graphs, and DS, then 9, who had tremendous reluctance to do any writing or drawing, just 'had' to have graph paper to create some answer to some Math question they were discussing, and since we didn't have any in the house, he decided to make some. So he sat for 2 hours and drew graph paper, and then proved his point. As soon as DH could get me alone, he said: "you'll never believe what DS did today".
It was so sweet! Since that day, DS has been much more able to be 'deep' in front of dad, and DH has come to see that 'I was right.'
((great big satisfied smile))
I try not to rub it in, and fully expect that in a few years, DH will be telling stories that demonstrate how he knew from an early age that DS was just going to need 'more.' Then I'll be totally satisfied.
Grinity
