DH didn't reaize for a while just how advanced DD was as he was never really around other kids her age, I read him what is normal for her age, and ten we went through the lists together to find out what age it was normal for a child to be doing what DD was...that was very eye opening to both of us.
I did that but he does not believe the charts can be real. He does believe DD is smart but he thinks every above average child are like DD and if not they could be if exposed to the same life than DD.
Do you think there is a reason your DH does not want her to be so advanced? Do you think he has concerns, or something in his past that makes him weary of labeling dd as gifted?
We are not from US so we were never tested to be gifted so he thinks the term is weird. His school experience was more positive than mine, he had few good friends that shared his interests. I'm more worried as I always knew I was different. I had lot of friends but none of them shared any of my interests. I think he also feels he is stupid as his talents are more linguistics and he thinks he should be more talented in math to be smart. I'm the opposite so he seems to think I'm smarter. He was an early reader himself. DD is much more advanced than either one of us were at her age.
I am impressed when any kid learns to read. So many can't.
Yes this is very true.
My husband was also skeptical when DS was that age. He tried to tell me that DS had "memorized" books he hadn't seen before.
He also says that DD has memorized everything or asks me when did I tell her what it said.
but you do not actually need him to understand.
It is your internal doubts that are bothering you the most. Conquere them, and your DH will fall into line.
This is very true, I think it bothers me so much as I'm still bit in denial myself.
In the meantime, read 'losing our minds, gifted children left behind' and send DH on playdates with normally developing agemates. That may be easier said than done, as it's sometimes hard to find agemates your child will enjoy who aren't themselves gifted, but do it anyway. Send him to some 'mommy and me' type classes and let him see for himself. It will take as long as it needs to take. Sorry. and it isn't fair. But I am grateful that your child has at least one parent who 'gets it.'
I read the book few weeks ago and in every level I find kids that did something sooner or later than mine. It mostly made DD feel normal as she was like lot of those kids. Reading the text I think she might be level 3-4 on the other hand I have no idea. It is quite sad but we do not know that many kids.
I think it is harder for their dads if they are not around other children the same age. We go through the same thing over here. He actually thinks she is slow half the time and she knew letter sounds at 1.5, did complex puzzles,said things like "an octogon has eight sides" well before two, knew pentagons, trapezoids, etc. by 1.5, read words and easy books at 2, and was even spelling at two and on and on. She is three now and talks about feeling suffocated and needing to concentrate and enjoying conversation, makes up elaborate songs and stories and memorized hundreds of stories songs and poems and can read some fairly large words. I really don't know what is normal either, and even though she has been tested and has high scores, I wonder if she really is gifted, but people are contantly commenting on what she says and knows and I am around other young kids, but honestly, I really don't know what normal two and three year olds do. I do spend time with her, but she pulls things out of the air that surprise me and I didn't teach her directly
Thank you, you seem to be in the same situation, except we don't have any scores and might never get one.
I update him but he doesn't like it when I ramble about choices, decisions, issues, etc. I've heard it's characteristic of men that I need to ask him one thing specifically (e.g. Should DS skip another grade?) rather than tossing out ideas for an hour.
Very true, I felt exactly the same way when I was pregnant. I used lot of time to figure out which carseat and stroller we should get and DH was not interested at all. He said he does not need to be as he knows I research everything so well, if he tried it would not make a difference as I would still know much more about strollers and carseats as he ever could. I think he would do more if I would did not do\know it already.
Basically sometimes when he thinks about DS being gifted he feels uncomfortable or guilty.
I think DH is afraid what do ppl including his sisters think if DD is truly so advanced she seems now. He hopes she would be like his nephews are, very smart but in a less obvious way.
