Originally Posted By: master of none
If you don't have a sense of what is important to you, you are at a loss. So, if you are wondering, consider your own (and your child's) values. Do you value "fitting in" or "making the best of it"? If so, your child will learn how to deal using their best coping and advocacy probably isn't in your future. Maybe those were the values of your parents. If you value "hard work for it's own sake" or "reaching potential", then advocacy might be needed.
In some ways, this can be viewed as a microcosm of "the real world" which our children will eventually join. Do you feel one should contribute, be a good citizen, as it were? One can argue that individual acceleration and advancement is the best way to achieve that, but remember that there are many other ways.
In either case, the public school should allow the individual child and family to make the choice for themselves.
