LOL-- or "World of Warcrack"?
This can be a real problem ... I really feel for you and your situation. I agree a long heart-to-heart is in order, but let him do most of the talking; something like, "We want to know what we can do to help you."
My HG+ dh sounds like he was similar to your son. He left high school as a 14yo freshman ... He felt it was a ridiculous waste of his time, so refused to go anymore; he just sat around and played video games! They worked out a deal where he could work at his own pace, and graduate from the high school when he was done with the senior course work. He graduated at 15, got a job in the tech service injury (think cable guy), while taking the odd class here and there and learning all he could on the side. Now he works for the Web technology department in a large credit-card company -- 95% of his colleagues have degrees, but he learned everything he needs on his own, faster than he'd learn in a class. And he's still a gamer.
Which leads to the question: would your ds be interested in homeschooling? Maybe he could even take some correspondence game design courses. Might be worth investigating...
