Maybe someone on the board can suggest a similar resource looking at tweens and teens? Even reading Leach at this late date might have some use in helping re-frame the problem. The baby stuff is obviously meaningless for a 10-year old. However, thinking about how to consciously recognize the disconnect between the way we want to parent, and the parent our child needs, and building strategies to bridge that gap - that is a struggle many of us work on continually.
Not exactly what you want, but I think you might benefit from reading
The Explosive Child, if you haven't yet. It's not really just for kids who are explosive. Ross Greene also has a new book out,
Lost and Found, which is aimed a little more at teachers than at parents (I think - it hasn't come to the top of my library queue yet), but that is reported to have a similar theme. It's really about figuring out what your kid wants and needs, what
you want and need, and how to find solutions that work for both sides.
