Hi everyone!
I have so much trouble relating to my daughter. My fantasy with any child, gifted or not, is that we'd share similar interests, relate, talk about interesting things together, etc. -- obviously a total fantasy.
I was identified as gifted when I was young. Then my daughter was identified as gifted. I was so excited about this because now I expected more intense intellectual conversations with her and a closer bond. Didn't happen. Things actually got worse because my expectations of her increased.
Does anyone else have a kid who is gifted in a different way and driving them insane?
I was always very empathic and concerned about other's feelings, to the point that I could intuit their feelings and be able to give them what they needed emotionally back to make them feel better.
Although my daughter will cry for hours after seeing a sad play, she doesn't show any care about the feelings of people in her life. She orders people around and is basically a bully.
She's ten, but since the age of two, she's been extremely practical and logical. If working at something isn't going to matter in the long run in her mind, she won't work at it -- even if she's very talented at it. This drives me nuts because I have always been an A-type perfectionist and wanted to be the best at anything I tried. Plus, she has way more talent than I had in things like music, and she won't even practice.
Her sense of justice is way more pronounced than mine ever was. I always had an acute sense of justice, but I was able to let it go in social situations. If a friend disagreed with me, I was able to let my sense of justice go in order to maintain my friendship. She's unable to do that. She's always telling her friends they are wrong, refusing to apologize based on principle, not considering their feelings, etc.
I'm having so much trouble dealing with her or even respecting her. I really value empathy and being kind to people.
Has anyone else had to deal with a similar problem?
Thank you in advance!
