Tigerle you are dealing with an awful lot and doing well. I do wish you could get more support from your DH. Mine is rarely home so I get how hard it is to do stuff when you have so many other demands on your time.
Taking a different tack entirely, I was remembering that when my DD was in sixth grade she had vetoed a skip into High School (starts in year 7 here) and then totally regretted it. It was her worst school year. There was a lot of depression and I do remember a lot of angst over PE as yet another blow to her self esteem. Once she was in High School she didn't care so much that sport and PE were not her fortes as long as she was being challenged academically. It helped that she had a very supportive PE teacher for two of her years in PE. The one year she didn't have him but a very unsupportive teacher it was awful but she coped so much better because she no longer saw PE as a big deal.
So I was wondering......can you revisit your schooling option for next year? Do you think a better academic fit might relieve some of the other stress or do you think they are just too separate as issues?
Given everything you are doing in your life I would hate to generate any stress with that suggestion. I just know that for our DD being saisfied and challenged academically made dealing with other challenges so much easier.
For what is worth I went along with her veto of the grade skip at the time as she was a little 9 year old. She has now skipped into that year group anyway. She was talking the other day about how different life might have been if she had done the skip earlier brut to her credit, she identified lots of good things that she experienced anyway. So often there are no perfect answers, just trial and error and making do.
