I hear your frustration. DS is 8 and the other day I muttered to someone that when he is 40 I will still be wiping pizza sauce off his chin and cheeks. I know he eats pizza at school sometimes, and other messy foods, so I am not sure how the teachers are handling it there because he never comes home looking like he needs a bath. He does use utensils, but holds them very shovel-like. I remember I did too, until maybe 6th grade, when kids started making fun of me.
He has an IEP in the "physically impaired" category (I had to fight for this), so he is pulled out for OT, writing, DAPE (PT), and speech. So that helps to reduce a lot of the out of pocket expenses. One thing that we have in his IEP is that he is supposed to use golf pencils to write because he does so much better with those than regular, long pencils. Unfortunately, I don't think he uses them regularly. I'm curious about what the compass thing is as well.
