Very very good to hear so many points of view! I was angry that the teacher flippantly stated that if DD9 was unhappy that she needed a psychologist (we have one, thank you kindly) vs. thinking about how she could enrich the work. I was also not thrilled that the teacher asked DD to prove that she could do 4th grade work when every single previous assessment from the school showed her doing above level work. I later asked the psychologist if DD needed to prove, yet again, that she was able, and it made me feel better that the psychologist said, "Of course not." The psychologist also stated that is not up to a child to come up with their own curriculum as the teacher suggested DD could do. She stated that teachers should have some ideas about how they could challenge higher level kids.
What I did take away from all the posts here is that DD could do a bit more advocating with the teacher so we practiced that this week. Success!!! DD does do well on her own handling other kids; I don't worry about that. I do feel like teachers have so much power over children so it can be very intimidating for a young student to be questioned by his/her teacher. DD had no notion that she was going to be called in. That was not fair to her. I have done a lot of explaining to her this week about what is going on between mom, dad, and the school. I also have been more firm with the teacher about DD's ADHD and made more suggestions to the teacher about how we could work on that situation. Finally, I have a letter printed out for the principals asking for a meeting to be held to discuss DD and "enrichment". That will be the next hurdle!
