On this forum, I may get stoned for suggesting this but I think it is very important. I understand that your DD may be psychologically fragile but at age 9, she has to take a bit of responsibility for communicating and advocating for herself. In my experience, especially beyond K and 1st grade, teachers expect the students to communicate directly and is more open to what the students say and do. There is a certain mistrust if it all comes from the parents. You should prepare your DD to at least confirm what you are saying since it is likely that the administrators and counselors will want to speak to her directly.
