Polly, good information.

I am not an engineer, but I have lots of the DNA, so I approach problems like this: I want to know every thing that can go wrong and just how bad it can get, then I think I can devise a plan that will work.

I'm still feeling optimistic.

I even think I found a school I can gain access to with an IEP, and yes, I think I can get DD an IEP with an advocate, lawyer or our evaluator's help. I can also work the UCLA angle - anything on their letterhead turns heads.

I *met with the admissions person at the school this morning - it's private, but the school district will pay the tuition when the district doesn't have the resources to meet the needs of the child. A stretch for DD, but I'm going to GO FOR IT.

Here's a link to the school, which has classes for students who are twice exceptional for ADHD (they have gifted curriculum). DD would be the youngest child:

http://www.summitview.org/about/

And this program - part of the same school - for Aspergers and giftedness:

http://www.thehelpgroup.org/school/village-glen-school/