Seablue- sorry to hear that you are hitting some road blocks.
In our situation, with testing in hand, the principal told us she would help him. When the meetings came about accommodations for 2e stuff (vision and fine motor), we were denied because he's above grade level. As far as gifted, we were told they would only accept Cogat- ridiculous! They wouldn't accept our outside testing. Ds did not score high enough on Cogat. (Wisc was GAI 142, but told after vision therapy would increase 15+ pts). Our district is small and affluent. Basically, they want to be right and don't want to be questioned. We COULD get an advocate or lawyer and fight. Instead, we are leaving the district for a private hg school. We chose to do this 1) because private school seems amazing and 2) we weren't sure that district could meet ds's needs even if we "won" (which tester said we would).
Hopefully, you will find the best fit for your dc that you can live with. From all I've heard and read, that's the best you can do. Hang in there! There's a lot of people here with a wealth of knowledge and first hand experience. Keep us posted!
