Well-stated.
It's not really fair to compare the conditions (growing up HG+ and parenting HG+) to
ideal conditions.
That's really what most people are doing as they discuss the PROBLEM side in absence of the considerations for the cost of pursuing that course for someone who isn't normative in other ways.
It's like pointing out to someone who is using ramps and elevators to accommodate juvenile RA, well, studies show this, that, and the other thing relative to physical fitness in adults, etc. How "habits are formed in childhood" and that using the elevator is a bad idea.
It's not the situation that person is living with. Ignoring those who are ignorant about the underlying circumstances which are dictating less-than-normative choices is probably a better course of action.
