Thank you guys so much for all the advice!!
We are definitely going to sit down tonight and make up a list of things that need to be done before bed, and things to be done in the morning. Hopefully that will help! I may have to buy a taser to try and wake DH up so he can help with this circus! (He typically sleeps through this whole fiasco somehow.)
Typically we manage to make it out the door on time, everyone with all their stuff, but today was just TERRIBLE. Of course that led to DS having a terrible morning at school... not even an hour into school I had an email from the Spec. Ed. director asking about how his morning was! *sigh*
I was able to go climb at lunch, so I feel better and calmer now!