I think that "feeling crazy" is probably a universal experience for 2E parents - especially if your child's combination of E's have them dazzling the world with their giftedness at a young age. I picked up on DD's hand-eye coordination/fine motor issues at 18 months. It took 3 1/2 years - until age five - to even convince the pediatrician to send her for an evaluation. "She's just SO FAR ahead of the curve that things that are age appropriate appear to be deficits even when they're not." We picked up on what we thought was likely dyslexia at age 4 and were patted on the head, the arm, the shoulder - whatever body part was accessible - by just about everyone. The school refused to even consider her for testing "She'd never qualify she's too smart." That "mom gut" is real - it knew all along but I couldn't convince people - people who were essential to be convinced. Forget "civilians" like family or friends. They would actually laugh at the idea of there being an issue. Or worse - speak to me in that patronizing tone of voice that I am sure all the 2E parents here know all too well.

With the last set of tests showing her scores ranging from above the 99th percentile to below the 1st percentile I don't get much of that anymore. I still get "Oh, not DD! That's not possible!" That 99th/1st percentile set of numbers convinces everyone pretty quick these days. Throughout this process I have said "knowledge is power" and sought as much info as I could get. It is a rough road that is full of lots of curves and bends. I have learned there are certain people I would never reveal anything to and others to whom I can bare my soul. There are lots of LD issues in DH's family but sadly even more denial. My 85 year old FIL - who turned down spec ed services over and over for DH while he was still in elementary school - cries his eyes out if we mention any of this around him. Not over concern for DD or guilt over DH but because of his own awful school experiences with undiagnosed LD. "They used to tell me I was dumb and that I wasn't trying hard enough. It didn't matter how hard I worked I just couldn't do it." You really never know what is behind that other person's reaction. I think you need to just stick with your gut on this. As others have said if you feel like there is a problem there is a good chance you could be right. Especially with family history.

Good luck!