you're right he hasn't been locked in a closet and does get time every weekend with other children when he goes to his dads but he does prefer to be more alone. I stopped the flash cards about a week or so ago and wouldn't you know it the little terd is teaching himself to read. He points out words and sounds them out all on his own. I'm just not going to keep worrying about all of this it is only kindergarten for goodness sake! Its not like I think he is going to be permanently damaged by either going to k this year or next. I think its more stress worrying about it than its worth. Thank you to everyone who has responded.