Well, she has an actual destination in mind, so she just needs to develop coping skills and related techniques if she wants to avoid taking the Adderall.
Does she actually recognize that she needs to address this problem?
Yes. And she expresses remorse and frustration with herself for the problems she's created for herself by avoiding tasks she finds overwhelming - making phone calls, making and keeping appointments, filling out paperwork, etc.
Right now I remind her of deadlines, things she hasn't taken care of, etc. I offer to help her with the paperwork once she has all the information, etc. but despite knowing she needs help, she gets prickly when I bring things up. If she were just being lazy, I wouldn't help, because then the consequences would fit the behavior. But she is trying - just doesn't seem to be able to get beyond the fear/dislike of doing some of the administrative things she has to do. The need to avoid is stronger than the need to take care of things.
We're not in a position to pay someone to help her, but I think I will suggest that she find a friend in college going for engineering or accounting, etc. that maybe she could trade help with.
