Oh, no, she has very specific plans - BA in Fine Arts, Masters in Psychology. She wants to be a children's art therapist. And she'd be amazing at it. But while she knows what she wants to be at point K, she procrastinates and avoids dealing with the details that will get her to point B.
If she was just wandering through college finding herself, I think I could remove myself easier. But because I see that she wants something and still doesn't seem to have the tools to cope with the parts that are hard for her, I hate to just totally let her crash and burn.
My younger child did crash and burn his freshman year but has since picked up his own pieces and is taking control and doing well in college. But he doesn't have ADHD and isn't strung so tight emotionally. I knew he could handle - and needed - to fall flat on his face in order to take control of his own goals and get on the right track.
For my daughter, I just don't seem to be able to discern what is "crash and burn"-worthy and what could still reasonably be needed in the way of help.
