Pemberly...
Social quirks are sometimes just in the fabric of who we are. Your dd sounds energetic and delightful. When I start wondering about diagnostically relevant social struggles is when kids are struggling with peer and adults alike. With kids along the ASD (especially the kids with more subtle traits vs full-blown dx), there is often an almost imperceptible misaligment of emotional, verbal, energy and body language reciprocity. It might be as obvious as missing the "uh-huh" pauses we make during stories. Or as subtle as failing to smile in return (even for the briefest moment) at an enthused greeting of a friend. These kids are often misperceived as rude, pushy, immature, defiant, or even arrogant due to our nearly unconscious factoring of social nuances.
Even in medicine of the body, a diagnosis may change and evolve (from gasteroenteritis to IBS to celiac) over time. Whet is frustrating with psychological /developmental diagnostics is that the "answer" does not easily lead to a simple regime or cure.
Hang in there!
