Thanks this is all very helpful, although it remains SO confusing...
I was just researching private LD schools (none nearby and all unbelievably expensive. Really - $40k+ per year for elementary school. Wow!) and I saw that some will exclude children with NLD/NVLD from even applying.
Yes one visit, no idea what tests were used. I will get the report in about 6 weeks - this was just from the short conversation immediately afterwards.
I am surprisingly not too worked up about the ADHD-I diagnosis. She gets very antsy whenever she has to do "seat work" - not surprising with her combination of visual perception, fine motor and working memory issues. She has laser focus on anything that involves learning new information though. I am not sure how that one will play out.
MOT's description of her dd socially is very interesting. I will have to mull that one over...
EM: her social "peculiarities" are a big, cheerful, outgoing personality. She is very dramatic and loves to perform whether or not she has an audience. When younger she was always a magnet - especially to the more shy kids her age. I have chalked up any recent social discomfort to a combination of anxiety causing her to respond by withdrawing and a bit of discomfort or feeling unsafe after being around kids with behavior issues who physically hurt her during her awful K year at the terrible magnet school. She is totally comfortable with older or younger kids. Recently I have noticed that *very bright* kids her age love her but more *typical* kids sometimes don't know what to make of her until they get to know her better. She is very aware of other's emotions - she will ask a crying child what is wrong and try to "fix" whatever is causing their distress, try to comfort someone - child or adult - who appears to be in distress, offer words of encouragement, etc. All well beyond her years of experience. Does that make any sense?
