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I wonder if it wouldn’t be more cost effective and beneficial if I could hire a personal assistant/accountability coach type person at or near the college who would work with her on a weekly basis to make sure the writing is getting done and also accompany her to counseling/therapy. She might go along with that if it was made a condition of her return this fall.
While I was reading your reponse, I was thinking she needs a buddy!!! Personal assistant same thing. I would encourage you to do that but also to decide with your dd if she wants to go back and if you both want to go that route to schedule a meeting regarding her issues and how the freshman essay thing is part of that and ideally have the essay to turn in at that point. Grades can always be changed, there is a procedure for that when its a question of turning in work and if this is a disability issue then it should be accepted even at this point. I agree with your dd that there is precedent but using precedent as a means of avoiding responsibility without the evidence of what she is doing to rectify for the future might not be acceptable. I would encourage you use this to get her to understand her role in all this, and her responsibilities, and that the school needs to know she isn't just blowing it off because she doesn't care, but absent conversations with her, and a plan for the future, they have no way of knowing. She might not think she is failing but it looks that way from the outside unless she speaks up and if she can't speak up because of the anxiety in the moment she must acknowledge away from that setting that this needs to be in her accommodation because it's likely to happen again. Preemptive accommodations I guess.
Again, only speaking from the prof side of things, not the 2e side of things, there should be a way out/forward for her which does not involve having to be all sorted out before she comes back.
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