Originally Posted by marylandmommy
Her language and reasoning is sophisticated beyond her years, she is relentless when she wants something (or doesn't want something) bordering on obsessive. Her "smart" remarks, or way of "beating us at our own game" when we try to reason and negotiate with her are unnerving. You can't even punish the child, or take away privileges, because she reasons and rationalizes about why it doesn't matter.


I also worry for her, because she often just doesn't seem happy frown I wonder if it's too much negativity from us at home (she does classic things like know exactly how to complete the entire unit in math with the teacher barely covering it, but forgetting to bring her math book home to complete her homework 3 days a week; her room is a disaster area and we can never get her to keep it remotely neat, but then she loses everything;

I love her dearly and just want her to be happy and confident and feel comfortable in her own skin. My husband and I have always said life is going to be hard on her, smart as she is, because she analyzes things so deeply, thinks so hard about everything, and can never just "roll with it".

How can we help her? What can help us help and parent her productively???

I think the only way to have any of our children feel good in their skin is for them to understand themselves, their strengths and weaknesses, and how sometimes their weaknesses are strengths in disguise. If I were you, I'd get a full educational eval with a really good tester. It's not enough to know she's gifted, it's not going to mean a whole lot to her. But giving her details, priceless.

just my 2 cents.

Last edited by herenow; 05/02/12 07:27 AM.