This sort of brings back memories. Given a sensitive, nontraditional, Gifted parent, I've experienced the situation where school is the ONLY environment where the child shows symptoms because school is the only place where the child goes that has more than the minimum of rules, boundaries and limitations.
We have to keep in mind how much intensity and effort a gifted parent can pour into keeping a child functional when in truth the child has fallen well behind agemates. Not to mention how much energy, intensity and effort the child is pouring into holding it all together. This is a very difficult situation.
This, this, a thousand times this. My son's school experiences were incredibly eye-opening in helping me realize the extent to which we had subconsciously structured our interpersonal interaction style and home environment to accommodate his disabilities.
