Butter (DD8) is STILL not listening! Or, let me be more specific...that she seems to ONLY listen to me...and I'm not sure if it's asynchrony, being 8 or what. We do not have any additional diagnoses and her ears work just fine.
Two times in 2 weeks, I have sent Butter off to a Girl Scout outing without me and BOTH times, I hear back that she is not listening...now, she doesn't do crazy dangerous things, but it's scouts and it's kind of the point that we are a group, doing things together. Today, for example, the other leader took 4 girls over to the bathroom and when she got over there, Butter wasn't with her, but back where they started. And when she is reprimanded, or even just reminded to do the same as everyone else, the comment I hear is that "she has attitude" (I'm sure almost everyone on THIS board has heard that ;))
I don't think she thinks she's better than anyone else, but seperate, and it comes off like that to the other adults. Besides of which, she DOES need to listen to other people than me at times. I don't think the other adults should bear all the responsibility of learning how to get HER to cooperate, she has to do part of the work if she wants to participate in scouts...
Additionally, today, the leader she was with is also a giftee parent, so she KNOWS how this goes and she is the one saying maybe Butter can't come to events unless I am there to keep her on task.
This is super frustrating. We had enough of this kind of stuff at the old school where they just didn't understand her, I don't need it spilling over into her fun time...right now she is writing a paper on how listening and respect are related, why she needs to listen and what the consequences of not listening can and will be, but I just don't know what to do to really drive this point home to her.
Feedback, suggestions, your 2 cents greatly appreciated here
