DD is the same. She'd never pick up after herself, shower or brush her teeth if we didn't make her. I get the feeling she just doesn't think about it. She likes to shower/bathe once she's doing it, but getting there just interrupts other 'stuff'. DD is only 6 so perhaps our approach is a little easier at this age, but I just set a time she has to have washed by and if it's not done I just don't engage with her till it is - which works in our instance because she is my shadow, so not having my attention is a 'big deal' (also, because this can drag out, she washes in the evening so we're not doing it at the last minute before school). And I only make her do it every second day unless she is grubby or has been sweaty (tooth brushing every day, obviously).
With her room I leave it because dd doesn't play in there much so it doesn't get too bad and we do a big clean together every month or two. She has to pack up her things in other parts of the house though, or miss out on privileges.
She does need reminding every time though, It wouldn't even occur to her to do it off her own bat (having said that, last night I came out to the lounge and she'd pack up the board game we'd been playing - I nearly fell over in shock!).
Sorry I don't really have any advice - just thought I'd mention you're not alone!
Last edited by Giftodd; 12/21/11 05:40 PM.
