If your library has this book:
http://www.amazon.com/Misdiagnosis-..._1?ie=UTF8&qid=1321918049&sr=8-1I would check it out. I was starting to get the "ADHD" comments about my oldest daughter and even though we home school, I knew I would have gotten them if she were in school. She would be the "bored gifted" you mentioned in your post. But I figured I should prepare for an "ADHD talk" so checked into it and now have great information for discussion as to why she is NOT ADHD.
MamaJA, are you living my life? lol!
Same things here...I have my final talk with the evaluator tomorrow, but so far, it would seem more NOT ADHD or other 2e type thing. We are homeschooling now and I'm trying not to kick myself and remind myself that my kids are more resiliant than they often seem...
Also, my DD8 didn't have meltdowns per se, more withdrawl and reading books under her desk. This year she HAD finally started, I guess, to backtalk the teacher, but I'm still not exactly sure how that goes, it was more like openly refusing to do work, just letting it sit there or ignoring the teacher. She generally did not disturb the other students. We got many "possible Asperger's" comments but mostly just based on her desire for well defined personal space and lack of eye contact.
Honestly, I would sit down for a chat with the school and bring those test scores, possibly info from Misdx, if you have it, as to why it's NOT that he is a BEHAVIOR PROBLEM, but likely bored in class. You will probably get pushback about how he is already in the gifted program, blah blah...
Having a child who was labeled a BEHAVIOR PROBLEM myself, these are some of the things I wish we could have tried before I got so mad-changing classrooms, more challenging work, tryout in a higher grade. But our school was having NONE OF IT for a kid they had already made up their minds about
