Ah JoJo...I wish they did come with an instruction manual! It is very hard to know if she is underachieving or just being herself.
If you are willing I think it might help to post more about the testing experiences. Whay happened? If you have reason to suspect that she is Profoundly gifted then it may be helpful to have her take the SAT (US college enterance exam) if it availible near you.
Are you familiar with the Briggs Myer Type Indicator? It isn't scientific but it might help you have more insight into any possible differences in thw way you and she see the world.
My 2 main questions for possible underachievement are:
Is the child happy?
Is the child willing to try new activities that she won't Be able to achieve at because she is a beginner?
It sounds to me like you are feeling like all of your efforts are in vain and that you are a bad mother. ((Hugs)). Sadly raising children is like taking 18 years of college classes and never getting any of ones assignments or tests. Or gades back until the end of the 18 years.
Love and more love
Grinity
