I don't believe that the score matters, I just don't think it's fair for someone to hold that information about anyone and keep it from them long term. I'd like to think it can be presented in such a way that it wouldn't be a thing of wonder for all to be in awe of, just a piece of information that the person it applies to has a right to know. I don't imagine there are any kids who will suddenly turn in to a 'brat' on hearing the number without there being a whole lot of other contributing factors.
I don't think dd's IQ score does make her superior to the rest of the world and in our family effort, kindness and respect are what is rewarded and admired. When (and I can't say when 'when' will be) we tell her it's not like we'll be sitting at the dinner table saying 'well, you know you have an IQ of x, isn't that amazing. You're one in thousands. Aren't you special.' I can't say exactly what we would say as we're so far away from doing it, but as mentioned, it would be cased in the message that it is only meaningful in very particular and some what contrived ways. And, of course we'd continue the same message we have done with giftedness, which is it has no value without effort, kindness and respect.
Having said that - each family will know their kids best and will know if it's right for them. There might be factors which make it more appropriate not to tell, or hold on to the knowledge longer than others. I just don't think learning to learn and understanding the importance of effort will be negated by putting a number to the knowledge that you learn and think differently to others. Unless of course that is the message you're given (that it is a magic number). But we're all pretty clued up here - I doubt anyone's planning on giving that message in any way, shape or form.
Last edited by Giftodd; 04/22/11 01:58 PM.
