My DD is very imaginative and has been for as long as I can remember, but not to the intensity that you describe of your DD. My DD is always playing with special little characters throughout the day but they come along with us and interact with our day ... if that makes sense? She adapts her play to whatever we are doing. IE. we were out and about and DD had to take her characters in the store with us (tucking them under her hoodie) and they went shopping with her but they got into trouble ... getting into paint; behind things, etc. It was definitely entertaining.
As for my involvement: I'm not required to play but she welcomes it and thrives off of it. But when I'm not in the mood it doesn't slow her down.
So what does your gut say about your DD? It seems you still ponder it even though you have seen numerous specialists. I will say this ... if she does have Asbergers it is really hard to diagnose before age 7 or 8. I give you high props for not taking one opinion as absolute and continuing to research it, but my advice is not to become obsessed with it. Your daughter is a special little girl regardless of if she is or isn't on the spectrum.
