This is all hard stuff. Homeschooling I tend to be pretty laid back. But I do require the kids to be challenged and engaged for a period of time every day. And that does include music lessons for them. Music lessons can be great for GT kids, but if it's not their thing, I think that's fine too.
I think the thing that really comes to mind is that it is a marathon, not a sprint. My kids are definitely kids that would be happy to coast. They do need to be encouraged and prodded, to try new things. I back off if something isn't for them. I am seeing some encouraging signs in my 9 year old in terms of self motivation. But it definitely wasn't an overnight thing! To me it sounds like you are doing a great job giving your child outlets to challenge themselves.
