I'd join Mensa anyway and try to meet moms while you are there! Does your state gifted organisation put on Saturday Enrichment programs? Can you get to Pittsburgh for C-Mites?
Personally, I think it's a crime for a school to bore a child to tears, and I'd let them know that if they don't make something good happen, then you'll find another school.
I've been skimming the Picky Parent Guide: Choose Your Child's School With Confidence, the Elementary Years, K-6 by Bryan C. Hassel and Emily Ayscue Hassel and enjoying it very much. You might find it useful in "how to say it" to the school.
Best Wishes,
Trinity
