The total lack of self motivation is a pretty normal reaction, I think. Especially at that age.
My son is only 7 - so I can't give you definitive answers, but we opted this year to be a completely normal third grader - just with a little extra enrichment (some computerized at school and some at home and personalized). The weird schedule last year (missing some of PE in order to do 4th grade math etc) was too hard on him. The stress was ridiculous.
We questioned the grade skip because of his maturity, but have found that a single year didn't make much difference - but maybe that is related to his age.
Oh well... no magic answers. Have you read Genius Denied? How to help your gifte child soar? Maybe some of them would be helpful
Mary
