Your post reminded me of an old essay written by a parent of a child with a disability. The parent compares having a kid with a disability to planning a trip to Italy and getting off the plane in Holland instead. The sentiment expressed has parallels for parents of gifted parents and any one else whose kid is not "the norm." You may not be taking the trip that you had planned but it doesn't mean you can enjoy where you ended up.

http://www.our-kids.org/archives/Holland.html