As I have often written, high IQ is correlated with success. Parents very much want their children to be successful, so to "mourn" giftedness is to miss the big picture. It's my impression that many parents in my town pay for tutoring, especially in math, just to keep their children on the college prep track. Parents of gifted children usually don't need to do this. Having a high-IQ child is less stressful in some ways.