Have you looked at The Explosive Child? (because you mentioned yelling and door-slamming):

http://www.amazon.ca/Explosive-Child-Fifth-Edition-Understanding/dp/0062270451

Our counselor recommended this because she thought the inflexibility fit my DD (although she doesn't have the explosiveness). I have read it - some of it was useful in terms of how I think about my children - ie in terms of problem-solving skills they've not yet developed. However much of the advice I find similar to Dr. Markham, so ...