I totally agree Tigerle. When children are miserable it is a huge red flag. We have seen it twice and it was awful. The other problem is that when anyone is depressed, change can seem even more daunting so paradoxically, making a move can be even harder. We had exactly that situation in year 4 and despite being miserable DD was terrified of going to a new school with a full time gifted class. We had a back up plan and made her try, which may be contrary to what some people believe we should have done, and DD had the best year of her educational experience.

Of course, listen to your kids but also look clearly at the entire situation. Low mood is not conducive to making clear decisions in adults let alone in miserable children.