Of course, I hope she doesn't turn out that way and those are not values we're trying to instill in her but at some points, we won't be able to choose her friends for her and they'll have more influences than we would.
I just want to assure you that, at no point will her friends likely have more influence than you will. There will certainly be periods when it -looks- that way, but that's mostly a facade. And, of course, like we all did, she will make some decisions that you would prefer she not. There's no guarantee that they will -do- what we ask, but--my work population has been focused on adolescents for well over a decade, and I can tell you that I have not interviewed one single adolescent who truly did not care what the parent figures thought. They just choose a rather opaque way of showing it!
