FWIW, if the teacher knows that you recorded her and shared the recording with the ADHD center in order to undercut her questionnaire, I wouldn't be surprised that she is defensive with you now. From her point of view, you are probably a parent who "doesn't want to see" the "obvious" ADHD that she sees, and she is doing her best to go around you to help him, just like you have been doing your best to go around her to help him. My daughter also "doesn't like" to write (she also has a dysgraphia diagnosis). Her teacher loves her, no question, but still pressures us to consider an ADHD diagnosis for her instead. (She had a tentative diagnosis from her pediatrician on the basis of a BASC questionnaire, which the neuropsych said she thought was not correct.)
